Kevin Peter, a first year student at St Miras Institute, was frustrated after his parents scolded him for watching too much football and banned him from watching any more matches. Kevin picked up a bottle of cockroach poison and sprayed it into his mouth.
Knowing that your child becomes easily upset under certain circumstances allows parents or care-givers to avoid or work around these situations – or at the very least, be prepared for them. Kids tend to imitate what they see and hear. They accept negative traits of other people much more quickly than the positive ones. The bad experiences, such as verbal and physical abuse during childhood, always remain in their mind. So, make sure that they grow up in an environment wherein they get to see and hear only good behavior. It is the parents’ responsibility to show good behavior and act as a role model for small children.
If you expect your children to act responsibly and calmly, be sure to do so yourself. And remember, even a ten or twelve year-old girl or boy is still a child. When they are scolded or disciplined very aggressively, they tend to hit back even more strongly. They might show their aggressiveness relentlessly, if you treat them in a very harsh manner. Rather, tactful discipline is the key to bring down the level of aggression in difficult children. Show them care and love, while disciplining them. Aggressive children often threaten others. Other students often fear the aggressor as he/she will be both verbally and physically aggressive.
Once a child begins to view him or herself in a negative light, it becomes even harder for them to manage their symptoms. To every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction’. This applies to aggressive children as well. When they are scolded or disciplined very aggressively, they tend to hit back even more strongly. They might show their aggressiveness relentlessly, if you treat them in a very harsh manner.
Do not consider aggressive children as problematic for everybody. Instead, take it as a challenge to correct your kids in the ways, which wouldn’t harm either their feelings or yours. You need to teach them the skill of expressing their feelings in acceptable ways.